A lot is said and written on this topic. But parenting is not a rocket science to be difficult to understand nor is it a theorem that can be standardized for every child or parent. There is no such thing as a Perfect Parent. A parent plays the role of a guide, teacher, leader, friend, protector and provider. This does seem like a multi-tasking super hero job. Isn’t it?
Juggling between these roles and yet trying to inculcate discipline at the same time but not being too strict is quite a task. Children mirror everything that adults do. They are like sponges and grasp everything that attracts their attention. Now all you have to do is give them something worth imitating.
Make this a two-way street. Be a part of your child’s everyday activities and achievement. Be it a recital at school or just being an active listener to their blabber. Kids love it when adults listen to them. The other side to this is involving them in chores. Activities like cleaning vegetables, doing laundry or organizing their cupboards can be fun when kids are involved. It is an opportunity for the parent to bond and kids get a sense of responsibility and accomplishment. Moreover its team work and they will enjoy it.
- Be physically active
Take up a sport together maybe swimming or cycling. It will benefit you and your kid in terms of physical fitness.
- Inculcate habits
Habits inculcated in childhood become their character in adulthood. Being clean, polite and eating healthy are habits that they will learn from you. Be creative in making them understand the benefits of good habits.
- Early to bed
Children need an adequate amount of sleep. Atleast 10-11 hours of sleep is important for their brain and physical development. This will keep them attentive and energetic all day.
- Read to your kid
Sharing a story together is a fun recreation time for you and the kid. Learn the art of storytelling or story reading for your kid. Make them read too. It is a good habit to adopt at an early age.
This establishes a sense of balance and makes them feel meaningful. When they see a parent volunteer for a good cause, they will learn how much being kind and helpful matters.
- Set limits
Agreeing to every tantrum or demand does not make you a good parent. Draw the line when you know your child is being unreasonable or their stubbornness can harm them. You need not yell to discourage the child. The best way here could be get down to their level and explain them.
- Let them cry
Crying or yelling is way to express. Remember that the kid is growing and he or she might not understand how to deal with emotions like adults do. Do not be embarrassed if the kid starts crying in public. You don’t have to immediately stop them. Crying is not a sign of weakness. It is a form of expression and we all need that. If curbed or controlled, they will find other negative ways to express their anger or disagreement. Pacify and make the child feel safe.
- Don’t interrupt a playing child
This is their chance to explore their imagination and reflexes. If a child loves to play so much that he or she is lost in that game, then that is the kind of passion and persistence you want the child to grow with.
- Be a friend
Sitting on a pedestal and dictating terms of discipline will either create low self-esteem or a rebel. Get one notch below the child so that they see a friend who is willing to learn with them. Seek love. Respect will automatically follow.
Don’t fuss over raising a good kid, because you already have one. For your child to develop confidence and acceptance, you have to believe in them.